It happened already! Someone stole a parking spot right out from under my blinker. Well, tis the season. I’m starting to think I need to put chocolate in my glove box and turn what seems to be December’s daily event into a vehicular advent calendar. Each day, whenever a car nabs my spot, I will think of the Lord Jesus, then open my glove box and pull out a Toblerone single. It won’t be hard. In a temper tantrum fashion, I will have most likely already taken His name in vein, damning a soul to H-E-double hockey sticks. All I need to do is turn my thoughts to the spirit of the season and open my chocolate-filled glove box-my own advent “car”-lendar.

As I was looking for Toblerone, I came across a poem I wrote some time ago. It never made it into “Grow with Me Poetry”, but is a perfect fit for this blog. It should give us all a little chuckle and something to remember the next time we run into a thief who steals what we covet-the black asphalt that sits in and between two white lines.

I see it, I see it, it must be for me!
My blinker is on as I wait patiently
Your tail lights come on, now here we go
Oh dear Lord, why are you moving so slow
Look over your shoulder, I need your place
I'll glide right in if you'll exit that space
Slowly your lipstick is applied and perfected
a quick wave to me, yay, I’ve been detected
You were on your way out, time for the switch
All ready to go when there was a big glitch
Just as my foot gently released the brake
I slammed it back down-OH, FOR PETE’S SAKE!
Another fellow just zoomed right on in
Refusing to look at me as committed his sin
Out of nowhere he appeared and to my surprise
Stole what I’d claimed before my brown eyes
But, what goes around comes around I am assured
At the pearly gates, he might just take a tour
Of a heavenly parking lot with one soul space
But two await needing the very same place
Can you guess the one who is sure to land it?
I don't think it will be the parking spot bandit!
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Well, it is close to Halloween and I think I fit right in…with the ghosts. At least the part of me that dons an invisible disability like it was a white sheet with 2 holes for eyes cut into it. For the purpose of this blog you can call me Casper. For the younger generation, Casper was a cartoon that originally aired in 1950 and was about a friendly ghost named, you guessed it, CASPER!

This month is Disability Awareness Month and this week specifically is National Invisible Disability Week and ironically, I as Casper the Invisible Disability Ghost, had the opportunity to have an interview with Pennywise, that terror of a clown who ruined the circus for so many children (and adults alike). This is an opportune time to that share the transcript of that never to be aired interview. Why was it never aired? Besides being totally fictional and not a reflection of any actual podcast or interview I have done, you will find the reason laid out at the end of the transcript.

Casper: Thanks for the interview Pennywise, I hope to shed some light on what it is like having an invisible disability.

Pennywise: So what's with you? I don't see any crutches and you have a great ghostly sheen. I was supposed to interview someone who is disabled.

Casper: We might be able to stop here, I think you just made the gist of what I needed to say apparent.

Pennywise: Oh circus peanuts! I forgot my wallet! Hey, since you're not disabled, I think there is a good chance you can run across the street and limbo down the sewer to get my wallet for me. I like to carry red balloons wherever I go and I need to buy some more.

Casper: Now? Well, I actually do have a disability, you just can't see it. I wish I had the stamina to "run" and get your wallet, but I have this thing you can't see called called dysautonomia. I have a hard time regulating basic body functions like my temperature and blood pressure. It is acting up at the moment. It’s tiring just doing this interview. I also have this thing called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, EDS. It's a genetic disorder that makes me hypermobile-you know, too bendy. It has to do with collagen. You can't see that either, but it is there and it holds us together.

Pennywise: Oh, then you shouldn't have any trouble bending backwards and slipping down the sewer to get my wallet.

Casper: Whoops, I meant so bendy that sometimes my bones and ligaments slip out of place. It hurts a lot.

Pennywise: Can't you slide them right back where they are supposed to be?

Casper: I think you are missing my point.

Pennywise: Well, if you really think you can't do that, while we chat, help me blow up my last balloons. I need them to show to some kids later.

Casper: I don't think I should, I forgot my epi-pen and I'm allergic to balloons. I have another invisible “thing” called Mast Cell Activation Syndrome. It means I can react to lots of stuff with no notice. Sometimes even stress makes me turn red and blow up like one of your balloons. It's also why it looks like I am wearing makeup when I am not. It is called “flushing”.

Pennywise: Perfect, Can you just touch this (pushing a balloon towards Casper)? Once you do that turn-red and swell-yourself-up trick, I can tie a string to your ankle and we can go looking for some unsuspecting children.

Casper: Not a good idea.

Pennywise: Oh elephant dung! Then can I use your big wheel to go get balloons myself? We can finish the interview in a sec.

Casper: Do you mean my mobility scooter? Have we really started?

Pennywise: Yeah, that is a sweet ride. I want one. Where did you get it, Amazon? Wait, why do you need one? From what I can see of your ankles, they look fine-even if they are a bit blotchy.

Casper: My scooter is considered “durable medical equipment” and was prescribed for me because I have trouble walking and standing too. My ankles are blotchy because blood pools when and where it shouldn't. It is a symptom of Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia, POTS.

Pennywise: If I can't see this POTS AND PANS thing, is it really there? Wait, why is your dog dressed up, it's not Halloween yet?

Casper: This is my service dog. She is wearing her official vest. The service vest lets people know she is working and not to play with her. It is her job to let me know when I am going to faint or to comfort me if I am anxious.

Pennywise: You don't look anxious or upset. Are you depressed? You are an attractive ghost, you have strong looking ankles, your face is glowing, you have a big wheel I really want and a dog to wait on you hand and foot. What do you have to be upset about?

Casper: You’re upsetting me now.

Pennywise: You might be getting hysterical. Is it that time of the month? Wait, are you a girl or a boy ghost? Hysteria is a real thing you know, I am seeing it through you right now.

Casper: (sighing) Have you ever had a headache?

Pennywise: Yes

Casper: Can you see a headache?

Pennywise: Yes, because I wear my pain on my puffed sleeve.

Casper: (sighs again) Let's try again. Have you ever had an itch?

Pennywise: Of course I have, haven't you?

Casper: If you had an itch and asked me to scratch it, how would I know where to scratch? I can't see your itch.

Pennywise: I'd tell you.

Casper: Why should I believe you?

Pennywise: Because I don't clown around. (said sarcastically)

Casper: It's not fun when people doubt a legit itch is it?

That is what it is like having an invisible disability. People roll their eyes at me when I walk out of a my car with handicapped tags, but I don't look handicapped, I've been scolded for not putting a shopping cart back when those extra steps would have caused me to be physically sick. Friends have a hard time understanding I might have to cancel plans at the last minute because they don't understand pain levels can skyrocket without a moment's notice. Sometimes people even think I have made up my disability for attention.

Pennywise: Have you?

Casper: (defeated sigh) Sometimes people with invisible disabilities need psychological services to deal with their illness and also to learn how to manage the way they are treated by judgemental, assuming clowns, Pennywise. It leaves our self esteem in the sewer with your wallet.

Pennywise: Hey! No need to get personal. I like the sewer and leave being a clown out of it.

Casper: Ok, I apologize. How about this, I'll make a deal with you. I'll stop getting personal if you stop assuming that just because a person looks able-bodied, they are.

Pennywise: (with a sinister smile) I will think about IT.

So went the interview with Pennywise. It was never published because, ironically, Pennywise felt it cast him in a bad light.
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Personally, I don't think that people intentionally  mean to cast themselves in the same light as Pennywise did. They just don't think outside of their own bubbles.

Moral of the interview: Be kind, you never know what is under a sheet with two holes cut out for eyes. 

Remember, some disabilities are invisible!

People say that our memory indelibly marks certain events within us, filing them right beside where we were and what we were doing at those very moments. For instance, JFK's assassination and his last moments riding in the infamous blue convertible prompted my recollection of the secure warmth of embryonic fluid enveloping me, as the bun in the oven that I was split into two. It was the moment nature deemed I become an identical twin. The date was November 22, 1963. Nine months later, I was born, 3 minutes following my mirror image. Memory is an episodic wonder second only to imagination.​

On March 30th, 1981, I was reading a Tiger Beat magazine, fawning over Sean Cassidy while also watching my afternoon "stories". BREAKING NEWS flashed across the screen.

My soap opera was replaced by a confusing skirmish. I don't remember hearing a sound, but saw a handsome older man's knees buckle simultaneously as he was caught in a riptide of g-men who surrounded and swept him into an inlet of grabbing arms no one could escape. A current of black suits swirled him into a vehicle, Moments of mayhem lagged where Ronald Reagan once stood. I watched the footage in curious horror. It was a train wreck,  an assassination attempt that occurred in front of a wall of grayness. At least that's what I remember. November 1963 and March 1981, what's that saying about history?

I​f you have an inquiring mind and want to learn more about ancient technology,  www.youtube.com/watch?v=eF8XjnU0TMQ will take care of that need. It just goes to show how far we have come, until we circle back.

I was 44 years old when the first black man was elected president, and I was working at a teaching hospital where  many of the support staff  were African American. Tears of elation graced their faces. The US was evolving. Did my colleagues dare hope of a future that would prove different for their children? In 7 seconds, one knee to a neck, and the words "I can't breathe", those tears of elation morphed into tears of grief. The emotion is palpable. History was spinning faster than a revolving door controlled by an 8-year-old  boy without a parent in sight.  Do we shout at the boy or the one who gave him free rein?  It seems the answer relies upon whom you ask.

Time flies when you are having fun (and even when you are not). At 58, I'm glued to the TV watching Russia invade Ukraine with an overwhelming sense of dread and sadness, wondering If I would have the resolve or if I could be as brave as the Ukrainians are if thrust into the same circumstances. Though brave, there is fear. Is the anxiety I feel mine or theirs? Our collective consciousness is crying out. A madman is threatening a sovereign nation and the consequences are dire. Putin, Hitler, Putin, Hitler-Can we really be this stupid? Why can't we stop this revolution? Wait, what? The door or the war?


For now, I am lucky enough to have a respite because, at age 58 plus one day, I am content to be In the air, soaring through the clouds as I sit next to a new mother who is flying with her 5-month-old cherub of a boy for the first time. We met managing airport security. I was examined closely because of a forgotten metal tin of chapstick in my pocket, and she because of her diaper bag full of baby must haves. As I helped her with her bags, I silently hoped she and tiny he would be seated next to me on the flight (not your typical wish, I know). As I boarded the plane and found my seat, there they were, right across the aisle! My heart melts as he flirts with me, fusses and then goes to sleep only to wake and repeat. For a moment, I forget about the world we are creating for him. For now, I just see dimples, a new mom, a new journey and what could be for all of us if we just used the rejuvenating warmth of a baby's peek-a-boo smile to navigate the complications of adulthood and to stick a foot in the path of history's revolving door. Imagine the memories we could share. We could still have them, you know. Maybe there would just be fewer attached to tragic world events.​

Think about it. Where were you the day history stopped repeating itself? Now that is a memory I would treasure.

Revolving door, meet history.

I love comments-be the first to start a dialogue!

Hopefully, now you feel the way I do - more centered and grounded. I actually have thoughts that pertain to writing as  well!

I think a story-line has been staring my paralyzed typing fingers right in the cuticles! If you will be so kind as to give me a minute (or a few hours)...

​​Welcome to A Dramatic Grammatic,  my soft light shed upon managing writer's block and a look at how I keep my D-E-Fs following my A-B-Cs.  

Are you in school endlessly boing, boing, boinging your pink, #2 pencil's eraser on a desk? Or, are you an author/blogger needing to dazzle an audience with words but your typing fingers are paralyzed?  We all need to find a way to  land on a topic, to find  letters to string together to form words that will tell our story. What is the best way to decide on a topic? How can we become inspired? How do we keep the words flowing?

I don't think our inspiration has to be complicated. Though they may, our muses (or sources of inspiration) need not arise from an earth-shattering, life-changing event.

When we have a muse, it becomes much easier to find our story. While writing poetry, one specific event, feeling, person, or even thought can serve as inspiration (like the tears or the nursery rhyme characters). When all else fails, I just begin writing, even if I am not sold on my A, B, Cs at first. As I write, l let my words settle a bit. I come back to the words and as I do, a storyline almost always takes shape. The delete and backspace keys become my best friends and while the result rarely resembles my initial idea, what takes shape is better! The re-writes almost certainly contain the inspiration that my first draft lacked. It is a process, for sure. Patience and persistence are imperative. Rushing the process ends in scrambled letters.

​ Now let's look at another poem. In this blog's journey, these poems were written first and the blog post followed. See if you can identify the muse managing to set my A,B,Cs in motion.

Dramatic Grammatic
I or thee? This punctuation signals quandary.
Can the future truly depend upon me?
Now and then, adverbs prove time and again.
The future is indeed hampered by when.
“This way or that way” our phrase of the day.
Leaves the future in the midst of a fray.
A smile upside down can be a noun,
and Future’s adverb when feeling down.
I or thee, when a single pronoun is key,
might the future need it to be "we”?​

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I have to be honest, my brain hurt as I was writing this poem. As I set out, I was thinking about moral dilemmas. But, I also had a hidden agenda. I needed another "mission" for Mission Poetry. Mission Poetry is the page on this website devoted to introducing children to  poetry. It includes lesson plans for parents and teachers that can be used to supplement those in a  school's curriculum.  I am a huge fan of using one lesson to reinforce another. Therein lay my inspiration; I wanted to write a poem that was thought-provoking but also reinforced another English lesson, in this case, grammar. Since the grammar concepts and how they are presented suit a higher grade level and thought process, I also wanted to write the same poem in a more basic form. By focusing on the moral concepts alone (no grammar lesson), the poem can be enjoyed by much younger children, thus encompassing a broader audience.

A DRAMA-RAMA
Me or you, think about who
Both are important in what you do
Now or then think about when
It really matters time and again
My way or your way
The words that you say
Can turn smiles into frowns
As they flip upside down
Me or you? Is that the choice?
It's time to listen to another voice.
It says: leave out all the lonely "I"s
For doing so is very, very wise!
And just as one plus one equals two
Try adding this: add "me" to "you".
The answer will forever be
Not me or you, but "W"-"E"

THE BIG TAKE AWAY:

HAPPY THANKSGIVING

Answer: What wins the prize for most ill thought out
​ game show question.

Welcome readers, I am your guest host.  ​ Buzzers ready, good luck. 

The Category is OPPOSITES

The Category is SYNDROMES

Yes, that is the appropriate answer, but sadly, it is also factually incorrect and insensitive. Go to jail. Oh, wait, sorry - wrong game. But, hey, this is my blog and my rules. The jail is quite crowded because it is where the Jeopardy writers landed after their original Grinch clue. They will remain there until they apologize to those suffering from this debilitating condition and promise to demonstrate a higher emotional IQ when writing Jeopardy clues in the future. The Eeyore clue was written solely to provide a comparison to the Grinch clue, in hopes of helping some see the insensitivity as it is applied to another debilitating medical condition. Honestly, it was written to drive my point home.

This Jeopardy kerfuffle illuminated the current polarization within our society. Taking Jeopardy out of the picture, let's look at the reactions of the public to the gaff itself. Let me just emphasize that it was a gaff. The clue contained admittedly incorrect information that was corrected by Jeopardy.

There seemed to be two schools of thought surrounding the hurly-burly (a cool synonym of kerfuffle). Basically, they are: the outraged and the get over it, the insulted and the get over it, the left wing PC hounds and the I don't give a flying left wing and neither should you, the informed and the ill-informed, and finally, the I'm a little bit country, and I'm a little bit rock and roll. I think you get my drift.

I was fascinated by a comment thread I found on the subject. It mirrored the two schools of thought. Here is a small sample of the thread. Note to you: if you click on the date, it is a link to the thread in its entirety. It is worth the read.​

john says:
June 23, 2021 at 5:57 AM
its was not a major blunder.
human make mistakes.
get over it.
for a show to get near perfect research. is impressive record.

(I'm not certain I can take John seriously, due to the simple fact he is a pot calling the kettle black in the category of blunders. His blunder category falls under grammar. If, however, I were to take john seriously, the tone of his comment, and his inability to understand why someone might be hurt by such a description of a disabling condition reduced to a Dr. Seuss character's attribution would be reason for him to "go to jail")


The second school of thought is that those thinking POTS should be renamed Grinch Syndrome are insensitive clods who have never lived a day in a handicapped person's mobility scooter - therefore they need to just shut their pie-holes (and go to jail).

Responding to AIS, Bea says:
June 22, 2021 at 9:43 PM
I suspect without knowing it you proved what patients having POTs find so irksome. As a population, we often see more than a few cardiologists to obtain a proper diagnosis-we are also often treated inappropriately, dismissed and lead to the door with the recommendation that we lose weight (even if we are not overweight) and exercise (even though it was those heart muscle building exercises that triggered the need to pass out in the first place). Call me a Grinch, but maybe those were the docs that put such an inept description in a medical journal. There are some things that are just legit offensive; incorrect information touted as correct, the assumption that it is ok to label a disability in a derogatory fashion or worse, to be judged by a mind two sizes too small. It is the complex nature of POTS that leaves us all a bit starved for an accurate depiction. The last thing I need is another person lashing out at me because I parked in the handicapped spot they think I don’t deserve- after all, you can’t see a tiny Grinch heart, even if that nonsense were true.

​Although this is a well-spoken thought, Bea goes to jail for the degree of snark disguised as humor.

Bea also says:
June 23, 2021 at 6:09 AM
Important P.S.
I applaud Jeopardy for their apology. People make mistakes, and those with character make amends. The amends set the show apart from those who say “just get over it”. Thank you, Jeopardy.

(Full disclosure, Bea is actually yours truly. POTS runs in our family and I am well versed in the syndrome as well as its devastating and handicapping symptoms, which BTW, are largely invisible.)

What was so fascinating about the thread was the tone of the persons chiming in. There was disgust, vehemence, judgement , occasional kind tones with sprinkles of empathy. It was as if some people writing truly had hearts two sizes to small and enjoyed  the chance to skewer others using their word-sword.

Jeopardy made a mistake which offended some of its viewers and was also factually incorrect.  However, they wasted no time listening to those they offended, and made amends, showing a heart-warming strength of character. They apologized as fans were doubling down in judgement of those upset by the "cluelessness" of the clue. Would this have been you? If it is, maybe it is time to see a cardiologist to diagnose whether your heart is two sizes too small. For goodness’ sake, just not the ones who wrote that study mentioned above-I don't like their methods.

Honestly, as a group, we just need to be thought of as a parking passes in need of one thing - validation. Having a disorder that affects collagen, we lack the proper glue to hold our bodies together. Life with faulty collagen is exhausting. All your muscles are constantly engaged in hopes of helping out their slacking friend, collagen. We are known to be Cirque Du Soleil flexible and then as a result, riddled with arthritis later in life. It is not a stretch (pun intended) to think that the medical community would recognize this disorder for what it is - complicated and real. They have the complicated correct, but seem to struggle with the "real" component. Too often the medical community stitches the holes in their knowledge using patient shaming sutures. We become so beaten down by the hail rained down upon us during our medical journey, it leaves us bruised and sometimes hesitant to stand up for ourselves being fearful of having to face yet another medical humiliation. Solace is the cave called home that we return to and hide. I once had an experience with a primary care physician who believed I had Lyme Disease. I remember the after hours calls and the kindness that permeated her voice as she lay out a treatment plan for me. The Lyme diagnosis was incorrect, with its treatment wreaking havoc on the underlying and yet to be diagnosed EDS which is frequently misdiagnosed for years. I often think of my dear friend who overcame cancer. Her journey was quite different. As horrific as it was, she was never demeaned by being told the cancer was "in her head", or that if "she just lost weight her cancer would go away", she didn't need to find her own specialists only to find that they did not participate in insurance because reimbursement was too poor for her type of cancer. Her friends and family didn't judge her when she had to cancel plans because she felt poorly or have them decide the issue was really hypochondria. BTW, I met my high deductible insurance plan's in and out of network deductible  in 3 months this year. The judgement award goes to a stranger who chastised me in a parking lot for not ​ returning my shopping cart to the bin (too many steps away on a hot day my body would not tolerate) When I calmly said I'm not well today, she responded with you don't look sick. I'll take that validation now please.​

• Torn ligament in ankle - one year to diagnose, diagnosed as "normal ankle" - 3 orthopedic specialists. "It's complicated".
• Cerebellum (hind brain) hanging down into my spinal column (nope-not where it belongs) - symptoms started at age 13. I was 40 years old at diagnosis and surgical repair. - diagnosis: "You would benefit from counseling, common migraine - 2 neurologists, 4 primary care physician, 3 neurosurgeons, clearly present on MRI
• Anaphylaxis/Mast Cell Activation issues (MCAS - this has to do with your body's histamine response - histamine cells are everywhere in your body - people with MCAS have "leaky" MAST cells, which can cause rashes, anaphylaxis, belly issues, and more - my symptoms started in my teens, peaked in my 30ies, and I was diagnosed at age 50 - During one particular MCAS flair, I was having an asthma/anaphylaxis attack and sought care from the ER and left alone in behind a curtain, told to stop crying and given a diagnosis of an "anxiety attack"- 3 allergists, 2 ER visits, 1 allergy immunologist, 2 primary care physicians. This disorder is verifiable through a particular battery of tests.
• Gastroparesis - fancy way of saying a belly doesn't work well - took 5 years of intermittent vomiting to diagnose - Diagnosed as bacterial infection - 1 primary care physician, 2 gastroenterologists. Can be clearly diagnosed using a gastric emptying study.
• Traumatic Brain Injury - Missed even though I had 2 concussions within 9 months with a history of crowding (big brain, not so big skull) This was diagnosed 1 full year after the second concussion. Lack of treatment was justified by this repeated phrase: You can't have a TBI as a result of a low impact car accident (you can and do when you have little room for your brain in your skull) - 2 neurologists, primary care physician, 1 neurosurgeon, 2 osteopaths, 1 orthopedic surgeon
• Cerebral Spinal Fluid Flow issues -I have a shunt in my brain to regulate spinal fluid flow, which was diagnosed after 2 years of seeking answers for debilitating symptoms. Prior to that, the diagnosis was "I don't know" - 1 orthopedic, 1 surgeon, 2 neurologists, 1 neuroradiologist. This was indeed complicated, but it took one neurosurgeon to dive into "complicated" and take a chance on a shunt.  I love my shunt more than I love chocolate. 
• Subluxations - In EDS, bones slip out of place or dislocate (remember the skeleton GIF above?) You rarely see these on x-ray, and in a some doctor's minds, if a tree falls in the woods and you don't hear a sound then it never fell - Multiple ER physicians, primary care physician, physical therapists, orthopedic specialists and osteopaths. Don't get me started.

*Side note: I personally researched and sought out all the physicians I saw when I needed to verify a diagnosis. I did not have  any coordination of care. I have not diagnosed myself incorrectly once.

The interesting thing about this list is that all of these issues are classically related to EDS and are documented in medical literature.  Imagine going to your doctor and having them ask you why you are there. In response you say: Well doctor, my head hurts, I'm throwing up, I keep getting random rashes and asthma attacks, my knees feel 80 years old, my fingers keep locking up, I want to pass out if  I stand up too fast, I'm losing my hearing in my left ear, I have this ringing in my ears and I think I might be depressed. I give credence to the difficulty in our diagnostic process, but feel like my intimate relationship with the medical community is often abusive. My years of searching has finally paid off. My doctor hunting has resulted in my team of 5ish doctors that trust my judgement, but I still feel very vulnerable when I have to consult a new physician.

 Lastly, in keeping with EDS awareness month, I would like to leave you with a TicTok. Who doesn't love a TicTok! Even better, I'll top it with a blooper reel.  In true EDS form, I want to let you know that 2 zebras were harmed in the making of this TicTok. Mom zebra subluxed 2 ribs, needing ice, rest and a physical therapist's touch. Daughter zebra promptly passed out after our little project was complete (thank you dysautonomia and POTS). This is not a rare occurrence as many EDSers suffer from Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia, better know as POTS and dsyautonomia. Dysautonomia is the body's inability to regulate what should happen automatically (blood pressure, breathing, heart rate, etc.) These disorders have received more attention of late given their odd occurrences in people who have had COVID. Enjoy; The TikTok not POTS and dysautonomia (should you have them - no fun at all)!

There is nothing like a good crisis to bring people together. Except if that crisis is a world pandemic where you are discouraged from being less than 6 feet from another person and to boot, commiserating with a fleet of friends, over nachos and pigs in a blanket, during the recent Superbowl was likely to become ground zero of a super spreader event.  My goodness,  America is just getting over our last stint with large gatherings and pumpkin pie. But hey, maybe we have evolved... like the virus. Now, you scientists out there are going to have to give me some poetic license.  I do understand the virus has most likely evolved precisely because we have not.  Virus' cannot mutate if they are not replicated, they replicate by spreading and luckily for COVID and its mutations,  the world wants a big Thanksgiving and a house full of Superbowl Sunday.

There is also nothing like a contracting COVID to force a hard look into the mortality mirror.  I suspect that roughly 108 million people out there can relate. That is the number of diagnosed COCVID cases  since the onset of the pandemic. My diagnosis makes 108 million people plus one. I have joined the He-man-COVID-haters-club (if you are not snickering, google The Little Rascals He-Man Woman Haters Club, and you will catch my reference and a subsequent snicker) In any case, since COVID,  I kind of feel like that unfiltered octogenarian  who says "hey, it's not dementia, I'm old,  I can say whatever I want".  Now that I have had COVID, I have earned the right to be taken in an a-political fashion and at face value. I can say "hey, I've had COVID, it really stinks, wear a mask, social distance, wash your hands and avoid it like the plague it is" and not worry about offending any one political persuasion. COVID doesn't care what party you cater to, and neither do I, I just don't want you to feel as miserable as I do. COVID misery does not deserve company.

People behave badly  when they are scared.  Have you noticed? Children just tend to shriek, cry or if really terrified, shriek and cry at the same time.  Adults are a bit more complicated,  they parade an array of potentially inappropriate  behaviors  all driven by  fear itself.  Do any of these fears based behaviors sound familiar?

• ​​manipulation - convincing your friend to lead the way into the dark, dank basement, first so you can "watch their back".  If you were being honest you would fess up to wanting to be a quick turn closer to the door (escape) with a barrier between you and what lurks in the basement (your BFF).
• Bursts of anger - exploding at your spouse for leaving a banana peel  on the floor. The peel was not the problem, nor was your husband (unless he actually does leave banana peels on the floor and then you have a big problem).  Your fear of having almost broken your neck having stepped on and sailed right over to him  on it was the problem)
• OCD - if you stick to the same routine, ALL the time,  and NEVER stray,  NOTHING can change in your world and there are no surprise scares. 
• Avoidance - the opposite of OCD.  Staying home feigning a sprained ankle having slipped on a banana peel, instead of going to work on the day of your big and ominous presentation.  
• Giddiness - Inappropriate laughter in the face of fear.  Your husband is laying on the floor having slipped on the banana peel he tossed there.  Upon seeing him, you spit out a guffaw before you have a second to check his pulse.  Inappropriate laughter in the face of fear can really get us in trouble... with our spouses.

While we all act differently when fear creeps into our lives, but we do have one commonality.   We all sense fear, for whatever reason - like a terrible year long pandemic.  Recently, I wrote a poem that taught the senses to children as well as gently pointing out that that We All Sense Fear (the title of said poem).  It seems that the poem is particularly poignant now, during a time when we are ever more divided as our fear based behaviors erupt.

• Shouting "SHOW YOUR FACE" while parading through Target - fear of losing basic rights.  Don't tread on me.
• "WHY AREN'T YOU WEARING A MASK?" shouted at the person crowding you in the checkout line - fear of getting COVID
• "BACK OFF JACK!" shouted at that same person crowding you in the checkout line.
• ANTI-VACers - fear of a foreign substance coursing through their veins.

Everyone Senses Fear is a children's poem, but like most children's stories, it can be enjoyed by all.  I thought it also might be helpful to add a part 2 to this particular blog.  Remember above, I noted that the poem was originally used to teach the senses to children? It has another purpose.  Once children learn their senses, they can then learn how to use them in a mindful way.  Doing so can help us reduce our responses to stress, anxiety and fear. Mindfulness is a great tool for all of us to keep near the top of our emotional toolboxes. So check back or sign up below so you can read part 2 of Everyone Senses Fear.  Learn how to use your senses and mindfulness to  manage fear. Enjoy the poem.  I will also be adding it to  this site's A Peek into Poetry" page.  If you aren't familiar with that page, it is a child friendly video blog page. Have a look-see!

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Happy New Year! Wait, what..., is it really?

​No, I'm not sure that it actually is. ​We are nine days into 2021 and:

• There has been a historical event in and around the Washington D.C. Capitol - It seems the only thing we all can agree on is that the USA may have actually hit rock bottom.
• We are knee deep in a pandemic, and even though we have made it to the year 2021, we still do not seem  technologically advanced enough to be able to DIY a face mask that doesn't fog up our glasses.
• The new year is in its infancy and I may have already met my health care plan's deductible.
• My unwritten Christmas cards are still sitting on my dining room table
• Oh, snap. I wrote this short blog and didn't hit POST.  To boot, in the time I thought it was being read, it seems that 2021 has become like one of those free magazine subscriptions.  You know, the ones that you let roll into the next year, were charged for and now even Mr. Google cannot locate any identifying information about the company which allows you to unsubscribe? If you stay tuned for my next blog, I will go explain the reason I forgot to hit POST. Trust me, you will be able to relate.

Until then, it is clear to me that 2021 is in need of a mantra to keep us going. No worries! I have home delivered your New Year's poem and it contains two mantras for you to choose from. Also, I will be working on turning the poem below into  "A Peek into Poetry"  video poem/blog  geared to the future decision makers of the world; you know the ones--they are currently fighting for the right to eat cake for breakfast and renegotiate bedtime. Until then, enjoy Which Will You Choose? 

Blogger's note:  I do want to stress that your interpretation of this poem is not a confirmation of my motivation for writing it. This poem will take on personal meaning to you and you alone and I dare not  influence how you interpret my words.  The one thought I will cop to is that these words are a reminder to contemplate listening to your conscience.  What your conscience is telling you goes from your heart tor your own ears.

​I wish you all a happy and healthy 2021 and look forward to memes that celebrate a successful and peaceful transition from last year's poop show and our current cluckduckery to a "Breaking News" free, mundane, boring, day to day, week to week and month to month 2021. Oh wait, February begins another impeachment trial.  Let me clarify: I wish you all a happy and healthy 2021 and look forward to... yada-yada-yada...month to month 2021, beginning in March, 2021.

I've been thinking ... and you know what? It hurts to think this hard. I mean it.  I have been going back and forth and back and forth; should I or shouldn't I, should I or shouldn't I? I have been caught in emotion locomotion. The only thing fun about it is actually saying the syllables out loud; they just roll off of your tongue - emotion locomotion. I know at least 75% of you just said it out loud or at least in your head. I am going to bet my salary (which is easy, because I no longer earn one) that at least 99%  of you have experienced it in recent days. 

Let me define emotion locomotion since the definition can only be found within my own personal dictionary, made up of entirely fabricated yet plausible definitions. Emotion locomotion is when one or more emotions propel themselves through the crevices of your gray matter gaining momentum as they travel. This is not to be confused with emotion circumlocution locomotion which is when those very same emotions only travel in perfect circles. 

My thoughts began their perilous journey after I completed my latest children's video poem.  I began second guessing the impact the video would have on my readers fearing some might then turn on me in discontent.  I blame the possibility on COVID19.  It has made us all half, if not completely crazed. My train of thoughts listed  back and forth violently as I predicted the thoughts of my readers and intertwined them with my own: What's true, what is fake news? How do we explain this to children? Who do I get my news from, CNN, Fox or Facebook? I am worried about our children.  Do I stand with the Trumpanater or am I a Never-Trumper? Is she trying to indoctrinate my children?????!!!!!!

,And please, remember that: the content of the following video is not meant to  reflect the opinions of its author. I will post the video poem below for your preview and will also post it on the "A Peek into Poetry" page.  There, it will be in the typical format used on that page and will include children's activities and guided questions to promote introspection and quality family conversation. Enjoy this apolitical video poem written for the benefit of our  children and their emotion locomotion. 

Video and activities for families found on "A Peek into Poetry" page